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this one goes out to all the husbands.
no matter what your relationship status may be, we can all relate to posting about our significant others at some point during our social media “existence.” I was asked a while back how Kevin handles my presence on social media and what he thinks of it. Honestly, I am still wondering the same thing.
I like to think we have a good hold on how much I share about Kevin and I on social media. I keep it light, fluffy, and seldom.
These are some of the things I have kept in mind when it comes to the social media life I have chosen versus the social media life my husband hasn’t chosen.
+When to pick up the phone, and when to not
We all have those people we follow who post WAY TOO MUCH about their significant others. It’s like a train wreck you can’t help but watch, right? Even worse, the ones who are constantly posting about their significant others and you can FEEL the uncomfortable energy from them, or even worse, their irritation.
Trust me, I want everyone to witness the funny, cute, or romantic moments that I have with Kevin. Because I want people to see why I love him so much. There have been times that I have tried to catch things with my phone and I am quickly given “the look.” You know, the look that says it all. (AKA, the “seriously you have to tape this?” face) So I don’t, because he’s definitely right, and I should just be present.
As perfect as we all want to portray our relationships on social media, there is a time and a place. I love the idea that Kev remains mysterious to my social media following. I respect the Mega bloggers who also keep their significant others lives a little more private. Its refreshing. I get it, its hard to not gush about the person you love and show every cute thing they do for you, but again… a constant film crew might not be something they signed up for.
My lesson learned: Less is more. I have found that Kev doesn’t mind when I turn the camera on him if it is a moment to be remembered and looked back on. Otherwise, its our moment and it can remain between us in present time. Most likely, nobody else really cares that much to watch our lives play out anyways.
+the content you post
Have you ever come across a risqué picture of someone on social media and instantly felt uncomfortable? Ok, now imagine your significant other posting a photo like that to their social media page. Ah! We all know people only post those types of pictures for ONE reaction and one reaction only.
I will be completely transparent here for a second. I have only ever had to ask Kevin about his level of comfort with ONE photo I posted to social media… and it was for a “Swimsuit Finds” post.
Think about how we all stalk, and form opinions about people just based off of their posts on their instagram feeds? DON’T act like you don’t creep with your friends when someone has a new boyfriend or girlfriend and suddenly within 20 seconds of scrolling you feel like you “know” them based off of 9 little squares.
I’ll leave this here. I would feel awful if Kevin’s friends, colleagues, or family ever felt uncomfortable for Kevin because of the images I was posting just because I wanted to sell some swimsuits.
My Lesson Learned: if I have to question Kevins comfortability with my images or even instagram stories, then I most likely shouldn’t be posting them. Easy peasy!
+how you speak their name
I think a big thing I am aware of is how I speak of Kev on my social media. Trust me, I have shared my fair share of funny stories or eye rolling moments about Kev via instagram stories, but I am so mindful of speaking light heartedly. I mean, we all remember the naked sprinkler moment! This is not to portray that we are just so fun and flouncy and everything is cupcakes and chicken wings with Kev and I.. but again, when he does not have the ability to defend himself, why am I going to bitch to my phone about things Kev does that irritate me. TRUST ME, if he talked to his instagram stories, he’d be on there everyday sharing dumb shit I do, or make him do. Ha!
I have followed people on Instagram that are constantly saying things like, “Oh my god, my husband is going to be so mad that I bought all of this stuff.” Or things like, “He’s going to kill me that I spent so much money on this.” Well ok, here is what I think of your husband then.. he is psycho and controlling and you’re just spewing these things about him to try and come off relatable? I’m not relating, you’re just painting a picture of your husband who isn’t even on Instagram as some crazy ass!
I could go on and on, but my lesson learned here is: Keep it light, and funny is what works best for us. I’m not sharing our hard times on social media looking for advice because honestly, every single relationship is different and we handle things how we handle things. To each their own. Was this too harsh? Oh well.
Q&A With the man himself, Kev Filotto:
What is your favorite Instagram Picture from BurbnChic?
Do you watch all of BurbnChic’s Instagram stories? Be honest.
“Not every single one. I flip through them all, but that doesn’t mean I sit and listen to every one”
What is your FAVORITE Fashion Item Kylie wears?
“Sunglasses, you have some really good glasses.”
What is your LEAST favorite Fashion Item Kylie wears?
“anything to do with Baggy. baggy pants”