Hey Everyone, and Welcome back to “Talk Tuesday’s.” Today we are diving right in to a topic that is extremely relevant in MY day to day life, so I am curious to see who else this is majorly affecting.
Let me first start off with this disclaimer. Do I have children of my own? No.. but soon enough I will, and this topic has been a strong topic between Kev and I when we discuss what our parenting styles will be. Not to mention, I TEACH children for a living, and have for over 10 years. I am fully equipped with experience to know that the power of technology is starting to dissolve the ability to have verbal discussions.
Are you one of those people who feel that buzz, or hear that “ding” from your phone every Sunday and cringe at the stats of your Weekly Screen Time? I am. Each Sunday night, I’m going to “be better” about being present and spending less time in front of my phone and more time talking to people. I’ll keep you posted when my stats finally start to deplete, because I am here to say that I am SO GUILTY of being a Screen-aholic.
As a teacher to young kids, I have found myself frustrated over the course of the last two years or so, when I try to have a verbal discussion with a child or group of children, and they quite literally stare at me with no response. A simple Yes or No response, might I add. I have found myself starting to joke with my students by saying things like.. “Can you text me back?” Meaning, WILL YOU RESPOND TO MY QUESTION. It’s funny and we laugh, but I am trying to make them aware that… it is perfectly acceptable and Respectful to answer someone when they ask a question.
I have also noticed the lack of verbal communication when I walk into a room full of students and say, “Hi Guys!!” and the room falls silent. Is this the result of “talking” with our thumbs instead of our mouths? I can’t help but think, possibly! Or even when I stand at the desk of the studio I teach at, and as clients are walking in.. ADULTS… and I simply Smile to them as they enter and say, “Hi, How are you?” and they keep walking with no response. (I may or may not be keeping a mental tally of the amount of non-responses that occur.) I bring back up the question, is this a result of too much technology communication, and not enough verbal communication?
Now, I again want to call myself out, because I am consistently on my phone in certain scenario’s as well. I am the girl who picks up her phone instantly when I sit down on my couch instead of talking to Kev about his day or what’s going on with him. I am also the girl who INSTANTLY picks up her phone if I am forced to sit in silence for more than 30 seconds, (Waiting rooms, airports, etc.) instead of people watching, or chatting with the people I am traveling with. GUILTY.
You know, I brought up parenting earlier. For now, Kev and I are only fur baby parents.. but eventually we hope to be molding young minds of our own. This topic of screen time and technology has been a MAJOR topic when we discuss building a family. But honestly, here is why.
Do you ever stop and look around when you are out at a restaurant and notice how many children are sitting at the table with their family, on their parents phone or a tablet? IT IS MIND BLOWING. We (Kev and I) now play this little game to see if we can spot families children that are NOT on any sort of screen. So frikken refreshing when you see it.. let me tell ya. This is where we typically get on this topic of how we will parent with screens. I am sure technology will only be a BIGGER thing when we have children old enough to know what it is. We are fully on board with technology, and we realize that kids will have to learn technology in order to survive in this world. But when it comes to technology affecting their ability to communicate, or it becomes the ONLY source of keeping their behavior at ease, then we have strong opinions. Not to mention, we have to be proactive NOW with our technology habits when it comes to conversing with each other, in order to be a role model for our future kids.
Remember being a kid, and going out to eat with your family and you had to actually sit and share things from your day with your mom, dad, sister, brother? Remember when you would have to sit and play games with your siblings using crayons and the coloring sheet given by the restaurant? What a time. Now it seems that parents can’t wait to shove a screen in front of their child to make them shut up and behave, instead of sitting with them and asking them questions, or playing verbal games with them while enjoying a meal together. Not all parents and families, but an overwhelming amount. Is it really so terrible having to sit and have a conversation with your child, old or young? You know, by sitting and teaching them how to have a proper conversation, learning how to ask questions of their own, and being able to respond properly with more than one word is ONLY benefitting them and the people they will eventually verbally communicate with. As a teacher of children, I gravitate towards kids who can properly respond to me, or approach me with questions verbally. I then get to know that child on a personal level, and understand their personality better when I have to instruct them or correct them.
Without getting too long winded, I realize this entire topic shakes me to my core. HBU? Again, as a teacher to students ages 5-18, I have noticed a MAJOR shift in our upcoming generation and their ability to simply communicate verbally. Simple conversations, like “Hi, how are you?” are now more difficult. I am trouble shooting (obviously) by calling out technology as a main source of this issue, but I notice my own inability to hold lengthier conversations with people. And by lengthy, I mean…1-2 minutes!!!!! But how the hell can I sit on instagram and message, comment, and like things for over 2 hours. Blah! Reality check.
What are your thoughts on this? I would love to hear. Is there another view point on this? I would love some parent perspective!
Let me know in the comments, let’s get this conversation going!!