Well, well, well.
Did I disappear or did you? Hey Everyone! It’s been a minute. I must admit, I took a step away for quite a while, but now I am back with a new motivation and lots of things to fill you in on!
Where do we begin?
Whether you’re a blogger, a follower, or just a friend or family member I felt like it was totally necessary to catch up on everything going on lately. If I’m being completely honest, I took a step away from my blog because of you guys. My reader’s. Let me explain…
For the first month or two of my blog, I was on a roll with idea’s and motivation with tons of awesome feedback… and then suddenly it all came to a screeching halt. Nothing in particular happened. I wasn’t getting hate, but I was getting a lot of questions. Not only can I not stand something I’m doing, especially a passion project like BurbNChic, being questioned, but it was starting to get belittled. FUCKING OUCH!
Now, I know that most likely EVERY SINGLE BLOGGER goes through this at first. I swear to you though, I tried so hard to tune out peoples opinions, but it was coming from my closest loved ones. I take everything they say, or worse, don’t say.. to heart.
I can remember back towards the beginning of December, having a conversation with Kev that was so eye opening to me, that it somewhat sparked my blog disappearance. He likes to be devil’s advocate most of the time, which is annoying, but in this case I appreciated it. (As much as it hurt my feelings so badly.) I realized that people (including Kevin) truly think that blogger’s are just bored girls who want to take selfies of their cute outfits and post instagram stories of their latte. Ugh! Sort of true, but not at all. So, I cried. He doesn’t know I cried, until probably now, but I did. It’s like giving someone your art project and they stomp on it. It was that kind of pain in my heart. And believe it or not, it was not only Kev who was so naive to the blogging world and how many different things you can do with the platform, it was a lot of others closest to me.
Trust me guys, I AM BUILT FOR THIS. My entire life people have questioned my profession, and my career, so this is not a new playing field for me. Granted it did set me back a couple of weeks, but I had a realization that I do not need to explain what I am doing to anyone. Done. For years I was not taken that seriously with my career as a competitive dance teacher, until the results started to show. I had to become a quiet success and let that speak for itself. I plan to start doing the same with BurbNChic.
What have I learned?
A shit ton.
But most importantly, I have learned that in just a short amount of time I have gained a following, and that what I am doing is stopping people for a short amount of time in their day to invest in information I am giving. Fun!
Not only that, the Holidays were also a good excuse to step back and regenerate. As weird as it sounds, I wanted to sit back and watch other bloggers approach to the Holiday season. I wanted to find the missing gap in the bloggersphere. I guess what I’m saying is, is that I wanted to see what I could do for the next Holiday season that would make my posts stand out. Even I did not want to read one more effing gift guide with things on it that only 20% of America can afford. Blah!
So for now, as a new blogger, I am learning. I am learning that every blogger goes through an up and down period. I am learning that I do not need to rake in $10,000 a month as a blogger to impress people or prove that it is a career. I am learning that if people do not know much about something, inform them. Don’t just get mad that they do not know. (Sorry Kev)
Two Words. New Year.
One Word. Inform.
I am not big on resolutions… or I guess you could say I fall back with every other American who gets a gym membership for the first week of January. ( every frikken year.) I decided this year I would pick a word to live by instead.
To inform, or to be informed. Either way, its the word, its the move. If people do not understand or are uneducated on certain things pertaining to me or my life. I will inform them. If there is something that I am uneducated on or naive to, then I will educate. Simple. This is what I started to do when people were not understanding my new project with BurbNChic. They just noticed me taking more pictures, and constantly honing in on my social media. Until one day, I informed them that, that “silly little picture” I just posted…… I made income off of. People bought the hat and the coat and the shoes that I was wearing that ONE day, for just a few hours. And the list goes on.
I guess it probably sounds like I am jamming it down peoples throat, but honestly, its quite the opposite. I cannot get unmotivated by peoples uneducation about blogging. Just the same as they cannot get mad at me for not knowing how to be a pilot, or a financial advisor.
On that note…..
What are your resolutions?
Tell me all about them in the comments. I love to know what you guys have up your sleeve.