Did my title get ya hot and bothered?
Today’s topic is a TOP.IC. I hesitated with this one, I will be honest… because I do feel like I may ruffle a few feathers. But genuinely, this was the entire reason I started Talk Tuesday was to discuss different opinions. So, I guess here goes nothing.
Has anyone ever told you that You were being too sensitive? By someone telling you that, did it only make you feel MORE sensitive towards what you were being sensitive about before? You know, I have had this epiphany after being put in a couple of these scenario’s that I don’t think people should be allowed to tell someone else they are being too sensitive. That’s basically like telling someone that they should not feel passionate about something and to shut up. I mean honestly, that’s how it feels.
( DISCLAIMER: There is a level of sensitivity that I am talking about here. Much bigger scenario’s than crying over spilled milk)
Without getting too personal on different scenario’s I have been in, I can say that I have reacted to certain situations before because it genuinely has hurt my feelings. I am prettttttyyyy good at keeping a tight lip instead of confronting people. Read HERE for more on THAT topic.
However, like anyone can relate to, I get pushed to a limit. For someone with my type of non-confrontational attitude, it takes A LOT for me to express being hurt or bothered by something. And also, the way that I express that emotion shouldn’t be of concern to anyone. So for people to immediately turn around and say that I am being too sensitive towards a topic.. they have NO IDEA how many times I bit my tongue before I got to that boiling point. Is anyone relating, or am I being too sensitive? HAHA!
I can remember a few years back.. I took a step out of my normal outfit, blog post type of Instagram/Facebook Posts, and I expressed a hurt I was having with a specific scenario. For me, it was a cry for help. I felt like I had been expressing my feelings on the topic and everyone was just somewhat brushing it off and telling me to let it go. And so, in taking that advice… the situation just kept re-occurring and finally I had HAD it. So, I took it to social media. I was immediately told to take it down, to stop being so sensitive and once again LET IT GO. I didn’t and the post still exists. It was interesting, that by expressing where I was coming from and how badly it was affecting me, even if it was through written words and not a face to face confrontation… it seemingly squashed the situation. It sparked all of these other conversations for me. They were EYE-OPENING conversations, and it evolved into a better understanding, and a way lighter heart on my end.
This entire topic was sparked by a meme I posted on my InstaGram stories. It said: “You’re not too sensitive. You’re not overreacting. If it hurts you, it hurts you.” TRUTH BOMB. I for some reason, have taken that statement pretty seriously lately. I have tried to change my mindset across the board. I guess for lack of a better word, I want to have compassion.
I think we as people are so quick to judge when someone expresses an emotion or opinion on something… anything. I have realized that I cannot judge other people when they express their feelings about a topic, but then expect everyone to agree with me and console me when it’s my turn.
Can anyone relate to this? Have you ever been told to zip it when you express your feeling on a topic you feel passionately about?
Let me know in the comments below.